The Great Diet Debate
The only topic that’s debated more than the current presidential election is weight loss and workouts. It seems everyone has something to say on these topics. Despite there being a diet for every minute of the day and a new workout popping up by the second, Americans are gaining weight and becoming less fit. Have you ever wondered which diet provides the best weight loss, and do they all help you burn off fat?
Most of us get overwhelmed at the mere thought of which one to pick. From Paleo to Pilates, there is misleading information, all of which stops us from losing weight and getting into shape. All the while increasing our stress levels and sending us into a downward spiral, which is never productive when it comes to making the decision to improve our health. How are we supposed to sort through all of this misinformation so we can lose weight and get into shape?
Keep It Simple And Stick To Science
I've been where you are, so I know firsthand how depressing it feels to try every workout and diet you read about, only to end up gaining weight, leaving you feeling even more hopeless after starving yourself and practically living in the gym. I over-exercised, lived in the gym, drank vegan shakes non-stop, yet was 40 pounds overweight.
My 360° turnaround occurred when I worked at the WWF (World Wrestling Federation) as an apprentice alongside Dr. Fred Hatfield. Dr. Hatfield was doing research to test bodybuilding programs that included diet, exercise, and supplements to see what did and didn't work.
The results were shocking. Most of what I was doing to try to lose weight was all wrong. I worked out way too hard ,and for too long (a CrossFit kind of workout) — yes, that’s possible, and I ate too much healthy food — yes, that's possible as well.
The Top Mistakes I Made
I drank the wrong kind of protein shakes (I used to drink vegan), and like any gym rat, I drank a lot of them. I didn't realize that it wasn’t the right kind of protein for losing weight and boosting my sluggish metabolism. Besides, they tasted disgusting.
Vegan shakes are not a complete protein, meaning they lack the essential amino acids to be called complete and therefore will not have the metabolic boosting benefits of a high-quality Complete Whey Protein.
I lived on cereal bars. Like most moms, I need portable good-for-you food that I can eat on-the-go. What I didn’t realize was how little protein these tiny little bars contained, or how many carbohydrates and sugars they were filled with. To make a long story short, my health habits were killing my weight loss.
Combined with working out too long and too hard, I was ravenously hungry which sent me straight to my health halo foods. They only served to jack-up my sugar and stop my weight loss. In the end, it was an all day struggle with food.
I had my aha moment of what I was doing and got where I was when I was 40 pounds overweight (that’s a lot on my little frame). I needed to start doing things differently if I wanted to transform my body. This was how the Metabolic Boosting Weight Loss System was created. I needed a simple system that helped me to lose weight and develop healthier habits.
Collaboration With Dr. Hatfield
Everything I thought I knew about weight loss was all wrong. As I mentioned earlier, I learned that while working alongside Dr. Hatfield.
We tested all sorts of programs from the American Heart Association Diet and Exercise Plan to the program the WBF (a division of the WWF called World Body Building Federation) was about to launch that was then called thermogenics. We also tested all of them against each other. Did they cause weight loss the way they said they would?
One of the companies/programs we researched, and I learned a lot about, was called Cybergenics. They explained what to eat and why, and how much and how long to work out. They also provided education on the smart use of safe supplements that helped the bodybuilders muscle up. So I asked myself, "why don’t we have the same type of system to help make losing weight faster and easier?"
With the aid of Dr. Hatfield, who helped bring these formulas to life with the purest ingredients from the highest quality sources, the LynFit Metabolic Boosting System was born.
Dr. Hatfield was meticulous about combining the right kind of diet, utilizing very specific foods such as lean proteins and fibrous carbohydrates (now called a thermogenic diet) with the smart use of safe supplements to help keep the body properly nourished. More specifically, to help teach the body to burn off stored fat for fuel and to help balance blood sugar levels so hunger cravings wouldn’t overtake the participants while they were trying to lose weight.
Combined with the thermogenic diet were very specific weight lifting circuits, three times weekly (now called metabolic boosting workouts). I was blown away by what I witnessed. In all of my years of working in the gym business, I had never before seen such dramatic results. These were not gym rats. These participants were not fit at all and had no gym or dieting experience. They transformed their bodies, and their lives, in less than a month!
It wasn’t the first time I had seen people achieve results using diet and exercise, but it was the first time I saw people transform their bodies so quickly without living in the gym or adhering to vegan or no-carb diets. And, they did it in less than a month.
While working with Dr. Hatfield, I had the opportunity to rub elbows with some pretty big names in the bodybuilding industry. I made sure I was around them as much as possible, so I could look, listen and learn from them. I can tell you this, the pros work very hard, but interestingly, they spend less time in the gym than amateurs I know who kill their bodies in the gym while paying the physical price of damaged joints and chronic injuries. In the end, they also damage their self-worth and relationships because of their addictive dedication.
I've learned that not all diets and workouts are created equal. It’s just not as simple as calories in and calories out, especially if you have belly fat or you've been overweight. You need to choose your diet based on your goal, not according to which plan allows you to keep eating what you want when you want.
Some workouts and diets work better for weight loss, and others are better for bulk. How do you know? Your results tell all. Success leaves evidence.
How All This Relates To You
Most of us are very emotional when it comes to losing weight and getting fit, and that’s where we fall.
We know that exercise is a must because it strengthens our body, and it’s the best way to reshape, tighten, and tone it. But, it’s your diet that plays the largest role in your weight loss. In fact, 90 percent of your weight loss success comes from what you eat. You can't simply exercise away a bad diet.
Now that we have exercise in proper perspective choose your method of exercise based on science vs. what you want to do for the fastest results.
The good news is that when you see your body transform in front of your eyes and feel the difference, you’ll be hooked immediately. This will make sticking to the plan much easier, and that’s the key to lasting results.
For flexibility — choose Pilates or yoga. or better yet, LynFit Recovery Stretch
For rapid relief from aches and pains — LynFit Recovery Stretch
For sports performance — CrossFit or LynFit Fat Blaster or Metabolic Boosting Workouts
For stubborn weight loss and transformation — When it comes to weight loss, lifting weights is must. But, it's important that you do it in a specific way to elicit metabolic changes vs. bulking up and gaining weight.
NOTE: Weight lifting and certain types of workouts have been proven to make you hungrier and cause stress levels to rise in the body, which makes losing weight impossible. If you're serious about losing weight before Christmas, you'll want to start doing three metabolic boosting workouts weekly. You'll need the right tools, so grab the LynFit Lose 1 Pound Per Day Kit.
We all know that dieting stinks, so here is how to do it right. Just about every diet plan agrees with these three simple steps.
Focus on the power of Complete Protein — Make it your priority
Complete proteins contain all the essential amino acids your body needs. You also want to choose the complete proteins that have a high PER (protein efficiency ratio). When it comes to losing fat and boosting your metabolism, the kind of protein you choose matters most. Lean Protein will feed the lean muscle tissue and starve the fat, so it leaves. Lean proteins are the best way to build your metabolism and force your body to burn fat. For results you can count on, check out LynFit Complete Whey Protein Shakes and Lean Bars.
Track the numbers that matter — Protein and Fibrous Carbs
Aim for at least one gram per pound of lean body weight per day. Example: If you weigh 150 pounds, but you have 25 pounds of fat, your lean body weight would be 125 pounds. Your goal is to consume 125 grams of lean protein every day. However, you can’t eat it all at once if you’re trying to lose weight and melt fat. You should divide that 125 grams over the span of five meals so you're only consuming the amount of protein that your body can utilize vs. storing it as fat.
Now that you know how much, here is the when. Space meals three hours apart. Begin at 7 a.m. and end at 7 p.m. You can find a complete guide in the Advanced Metabolic Boosting Meal Plan. The best choices when it comes to weight loss and melting fat are:
Whey protein — It helps reduce abdominal fat better than any other kind of protein source.
White fish — The lighter and whiter the fish, the better for your metabolism. Fish is lower in calories and fat and contains iodine that fuels thyroid function, which fuels your weight loss. White fish is the lowest in fat.
*NOTE: Salmon is not white fish
Turkey Breast — Turkey breast is lower in calories. When it comes to the nitty gritty of weight loss, every gram counts.
NOTE: For more information on how much protein you need, and why fish is better, refer to "The Metabolism Solution".
Fill up on Fibrous Carbohydrates
Fibrous carbs are the only food that can be considered unlimited. They burn more calories than they contain. When it comes to losing weight, it can be next to impossible to find foods that can help keep you on track. There are a few miracle foods however that are purported to be negative in calories. These foods essentially contain more water than they do calories and require more calories to utilize them than they hold. Thus, making these foods essentially calorie-free.
Approximately 75 percent of a celery stick is water. The other 25 percent is fiber and other roughage. As a result, this tasty vegetable provides you with far fewer calories than it will take for your body to digest it. In addition to burning more calories than it contains, celery is an excellent source of fiber that can help to keep you feeling fuller for longer, helping you to reduce the urge to snack.
The health benefits of celery don’t end at weight loss. Celery is full of nutrients such as Vitamin C, Vitamin A, and Vitamin K. Further, celery has antioxidant properties that may be able to improve cardiovascular health, reducing your chances of developing hardened arteries (and related heart problems like heart attacks and cardiovascular disease). As a bonus, the fiber content promotes regular bowel movements as well as boosting digestive health more generally. There is even some evidence suggesting that a diet high in celery can improve the appearance of your skin.
You can enjoy celery sticks on their own, or try lightly seasoning them with Mrs. Dash® salt-free instead of salt. You can also dip celery in hot sauce to make a spicy snack, or chop it up for a salad.
If you're truly serious about your weight loss, here is my personal Three-Step Plan to losing weight and developing healthier habits:
- Be brutally honest with yourself and clearly identify your bad or not-so-healthy habits. Then, eliminate those as quickly as you can. Write them down now.
Here's my example — I needed to stop working out compulsively and learn to feel my feelings instead of turn to food. There I said it; it's not so bad. In fact, it feels good to say it. I also needed to choose the right kinds of food that cause weight loss vs. weight gain.
- Find replacements for your not-so-healthy habits and define your new healthier habits. Write them down now. Then, imagine how much better you'll feel. List all the benefits and rewards of adopting these habits to help inspire change.
Here's my example — I needed a new doable workout that worked for weight loss that didn’t overwork me and jack up my appetite. I needed to grab and apple or a real protein bar that was lower in carbs and sugar instead of handfuls of trail mix or cereal bars that worked against me. I will feel better and learn to like myself more, and I won’t need to overwork in the gym because I’m eating better.
- Create your Weight Loss Action Plan, starting with just one habit (no more than three) that you really want to implement. Write them down now.
Here's my example — I will work out on an empty stomach for 30 minutes every day before work. I will drink my shake without adding extra calories (no fruit or almond milk), and take my supplements after I work out. I will drink my coffee black from now on. This was simple and doable, and the rest is history!
If you're serious about transforming your body and your life, focus on these three steps and begin to put them into practice. And remember, nothing will change until you do!
We would love to hear your story. What will you be working on to transform your body and your life?
- Lisa Lynn
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Getting Back On Track With Your Weight Loss
When it comes to weight loss, "tomorrow" is the most dangerous word in the English language. If you're serious about losing weight, and not seeing the results you'd like, it's time to stop living the way you've been living. The price you pay is very high for the cheap thrill that food gives you. In the end, it might even cost you your health. How you're living today directly affects your tomorrow. So, what will you do differently?
I receive emails seeking advice, all too often, from people with a habit of doing a week or two of strict, metabolic boosting eating and then falling off the weight loss wagon into a pile of cookies or store-bought protein bars. They want to know what they can do to stick to the plan, or should they even try. The first thing I tell them is the reason most people fall is that they think they need to be perfect with their eating. It's important to understand that perfection does not exist.
Most of us fall because we become too legalistic about our diets. Rather, our diets should be treated as a habit of making better choices, requiring us to decide what our actions will be. This makes us responsible for our actions, and the outcomes.
You know the old saying; "If you keep doing what you've always done you'll just keep getting the same results. To expect anything different is the very definition of insanity." Quite honestly, there is a lot of insanity surrounding the foods that will keep you from reaching your goals.
Have you ever told yourself; "I'll just have a little"? Sorry to say it, but that little bit is what's stopping you from reaching your goals.
It's at these very times to remind yourself that perfection does not exist. Focus on daily progress, not daily perfection. You have more control than you think when it comes to making food choices. But if you keep falling off the wagon, it's possible you may need a few tools to help keep you on track.
These tools make losing weight faster and easier because they:
- Help kill hunger and cravings that cause you to fall off-plan
- Boost metabolism by 25 percent, so you burn more calories all day long, even while asleep. This is especially important when you decide to go off-plan because it will help keep you from gaining weight.
- Block cortisol (stress hormones) levels from rising, which helps prevent weight gain in the belly, hips, and thighs. Blocking cortisol is more important than you think. Stress causes your body to produce excess cortisol levels, and the only way to melt belly fat is by reducing these levels. It's not an easy job and the very reason you need to attack belly fat with a 1, 2, 3 punch.
STEP #1: BOOST METABOLISM AND BLOCK CORTISOL LEVELS
Looking for a delicious shake recipe that will not only tantalize your taste buds but rev up your metabolism as well? Look no further — here's my Melt Belly Fat Birthday Cake Smoothie:
(½ cup) Water
(3–4) Ice cubes
STEP #2: KILL HUNGER AND CRAVINGS
Here is your supplement stack:
- LynFit Accelerator with Raspberry Ketones to accelerate the process and trick your body into acting like a thin person. A lean person will burn fat more efficiently. (If you're highly sensitive to caffeine you may want to skip the Accelerator. The stack will still give you what you need, so follow the steps without Accelerator.)
- LynFit Carb Edge with Forskolin to help enhance thyroid function and balance blood sugar levels, which is the secret to killing your cravings and managing hunger.
- LynFit Cutting Edge to force your body to burn off that stubborn body fat for fuel.
STEP #3: AVOID THE AFTERNOON ENERGY CRASH TO ESCAPE CRAVINGS BEFORE THEY BEGIN
Should you find yourself unable to suppress the urge to eat junk food, adopt the 80/20 rule. You're already following it; you just don't know it.
For the most part, you're eating your favorite foods every couple of weeks — it's inevitable. It's going to happen, and you should expect it. So, the best solution is to plan it ahead of time. If you plan for it ahead of time, you can cheat and still lose weight. Have a little pep talk with yourself. Sit down and tell yourself to try the 80/20 plan.
On the Advanced Metabolic Boosting Meal Plan, you can eat on plan 80 percent of the time and go off the plan 20 percent of the time and still lose weight. That's the beauty of this plan. In fact, this is the only plan that takes into consideration that you live in the real world, you're human, and that you cheat once in a while.
Planning in advance when you cheat also puts you in control of the binge vs. the binge controlling you. It also changes how you emotionally respond to a binge—no guilt, because it's all a part of your weight loss plan. You'll accept the situation, not struggle in vain against it. You'll eat less and know exactly what to eat, and how much. The scale will go up slightly, but you'll be back on track in no time.
Although there are physiological consequences to binging on junk food, I'd wager that most of the damage comes from the stress we inflict on ourselves—the internal fight and refusal, which only causes us to binge more. The refusal to accept the inevitable situation, combined with the guilt and shame you're piling on yourself for losing that fight.
Here's what the 80/20 plan get you: Acceptance! You learn to accept things you cannot change. You're no longer fighting a battle you most likely cannot win.
I can't think of anything harder or more stressful than struggling with food. I've struggled with it my entire life until I learned about the 80/20 rule.
You can live guilt-free. Guilt about eating junk food can actually cause you to gain weight and depress your immune system. By making a plan to "go off" for a meal as an occasional (1–2 times weekly) deviation from your regular schedule, rather than betraying your body, you remove the guilt. Make a plan, if you plan on losing.
I would encourage you to read this article I wrote previously about how to cheat and still lose weight to keep your metabolism in full swing, and how if you don't, it can alter the physiological effect it has on you.
As Kelly Clarkson says in her song: "Think Before You Cheat" so you don't hurt your health or destroy a month's worth of dieting. Most of the time it's not worth it anyway.
So, eat happily, just don't' forget to boost first!
- Lisa Lynn
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Are You Sabotaging Your Weight Loss?
How many of you are where you want to be physically, financially or emotionally? You have more control over your situation than you think. If you don't wish to be stuck right where you are sitting at this very moment, then it's decision time.
Your future depends on this one thing—You making the decision to do something about it. It's that simple.
In my 25 years as a fitness and metabolic expert, I've seen thousands of people beg for transformation. They fail to start their radical transformation with a concrete plan or even worse; they choose a plan that caters to their issues or addictions. This lack of a real plan is why they stay stuck where they are and never see the changes of their dreams. If you're struggling with weight loss, health or financial issues, I urge you to surrender to a new way of thinking that will transform every aspect of your life.
Change begins with our thoughts. Our thoughts become our actions so if you're living fearfully, you're never going to get where you want to go. You must detox your thinking first. If you find that you're getting stuck on a particular road in your life, realize that your solution will come from deep within, where you hear God's voice. This stagnation may be what's keeping you engaged in self-sabotaging behaviors such as overeating, drinking, lack of sleep, excessive spending, or not working out.
Here are signs that show you are getting in your way and holding yourself back:
You Think You're Not Good Enough
Low self-esteem is one of the most common hurdles, and it kills dreams dead in its tracks.
I watch people struggle with believing they aren't good enough, which brings us to the core issue—Love or fear. If you haven't learned how to love yourself, you're operating in fear. And what do you do when you're afraid? You freeze and hide vs. starting that healthy eating or workout. Habits we've been talking about for years. Or, you fail to apply for that promotion you desperately want or give up on dating because you don't think you're pretty enough. Bottom line—Fear keeps you from trying your hardest or at times, stopped you from trying at all. I'm living proof that miracles exist. I didn't think I would lose the 40 pounds that were making me depressed and miserable, despite the fact that I had helped thousands of people lose weight and get in tip top shape. I thought good things only happened other people. I believed it would never happen to me. Talk about stinking thinking. The truth is, it's just an excuse that we think will allow us to save face if our miracle doesn't happen for us.
You're A Procrastinator
Procrastination is another form of self-sabotage that is very common among perfectionists.
Perfectionists think if they can't do it perfectly, why do it at all? The problem is, perfectionism leads to procrastination that paralyzes us. We get stuck in a place we hate, overthinking everything. Overthinkers are scared they will make a mistake so they come up with every reason they can't do something or why something might go wrong. They come up with plans to counter these issues and the next thing they know, they're allowing their thoughts to dictate why they shouldn't try. This is known as a “negative feedback loop” that kills dreams and swallows them whole.
The result of all of this stinking thinking is they end up overwhelmed and procrastinate some more. Focus on progress instead of perfection and realize that done is better than none and perfection doesn't exist.
You're Stuck in the Negative Feedback Loop (the Bermuda triangle of emotions)
The negative feedback loop is one of the biggest problems yet rarely do we hear it discussed.
The negative feedback loop is negative self-talk brought up from the past. It is self-defeating and causes you to get in your way. Unfortunately, this past self-talk becomes a negative self-fulfilling prophecy that keeps you stuck where you are. Especially true when it comes to working out. You may have said this to yourself before, ”I should have worked out harder” or “the person next to me looks better,” because you have so much more weight to lose. This stinking thinking and negative thoughts destroy dreams and goals on the spot, like a nuclear weapon.
At times, we will do amazing rings for our bodies; like spending a fortune on the latest trend, yet when it comes to our thoughts, we allow them to be toxic. Those toxic thoughts kill any positive behavior before it even has a chance. I always suggest that people not deny their real feelings, but rather learn how to fake it until you make it.
Watch your thoughts. They become your actions and actions dictate outcomes. Success doesn't happen by chance. Anything you do will always beat doing nothing.
You Set Goals that are Unrealistic or Too Easy
Believe it or not, it's possible to set your goals too high or too low.
I learned while working with the Martha Stewart's of the world that for many people if the bar isn't set high enough, they lose interest. People need to be stimulated a little to become engaged. Most times, I see the bar being set too low rather than setting unrealistic goals.
Most of us are smart enough not to start an exercise plan on a day where we have dental surgery, or a food plan when we're going to stay at a relative's house. Setting goals too high or too low is another way of sabotaging ourselves. Figure out what makes you tick and set your goals according to what's best for you. We're all different, and one big thing I can share with you from working with celebrities and CEOS is they like to be pushed. Most work better under pressure because it keeps them engaged and alert, meaning they're paying attention. Their goal is always in the front of them. Always keep your eye on the goal. When you lose sight of your goal, you'll fall.
This is an easy pattern to break. Write your goals out ten times every night on a sticky note and place them in the house, car, anywhere you will bump into it. Don't forget the refrigerator and your desk, reminding you why you don't want to eat that candy that's sitting there.
You Allow Excuses to Get in the Way
Another huge self-sabotaging behavior is making excuses, or worse, allowing them to get in the way of achieving your goals.
The truth is we aren't taking responsibility for our actions, which in turn, keeps us from being disappointed when we don't get our way or things don't happen fast enough. In a sense, we're saying, “Oh well, it's not my fault. I can't do it. It's impossible." Exercise is the place this shows up the most. We use the excuse we don't have the time or we are hurt, but the fact of the matter is if your knee hurts you can always do upper body or stretch. Successful people look at the word impossible and see; I'm possible.
You're Surrounded by Toxic, Negative-Thinking People
My father used to say, "show me your friends and I'll show you who you are."
We might not have a choice when it comes to family, but we do have a choice when it comes to choosing our friends. People are like elevators; they either lift you up or bring you down. When you surround yourself with people who don't add anything to your life or support your goals, it hurts you and drains your motivation.Many of us are afraid to be alone and rationalize why we need these people in our lives. It all comes back to one thing—Fear. We believe that the needs of others are more important than our needs. Evaluate how you feel after you spend time with certain people in your life. Your mood will tell you a lot about whether this person is good for you. If you feel drained or stressed rather than inspired and fulfilled or energized, it might be time to dial back on the relationship.
I live by the advice of Joyce Meyer, “If you can positively affect the people you're with you are meant to be around them. If they infect you, it may be time to stay away." This includes family. Sometimes they can be the worst when it comes to sidetracking you from your goals. Wait until you feel strong enough to do what you need to do for you. In healthy relationships, all support each other's goals vs. sabotaging them. If you have a friend that only likes to drink and eat out, hit pause and watch your life transform.
Wrong Thoughts and Faulty Thinking Affect our Behavior
Our thoughts have been programmed into us since birth. Sometimes they aren't the best way to think.
Our thoughts lead to our actions or inactions that keep us stuck right where we are. The sad part is, these thoughts can influence us for our lifetime. One simple negative weight comment heard long ago from a person of influence can alter the way you see yourself forever.
I was told as a young girl that I needed to be thin, and I believed that until I changed my thoughts by practicing positive thinking. It took me decades to unlearn this type of thinking. I still struggle to this day with poor body image because of these hurtful comments. It's just as easy to choose a positive thought as it is to choose negative one. Choose positivity and don't let anyone tell you who you are. You are God's child. Begin to see yourself the way He sees you. This new way of seeing myself has been a game-changer. His (God's) opinion is the only one I care about.
You're Trying to Fit in vs. Being Yourself
You would think peer pressure would stop after the teenage years, but it lasts throughout adulthood.
Peer pressure is a powerful thing. It's important to keep your eyes on yourself vs. comparing to someone else. Resist the pull to give in. Especially true when it comes to making healthy choices. Try this test—The next time you dine out with friends and everyone is ordering burgers, fries and drinks and complaining about being overweight and struggling with health issues, try something new and stick to your plan. Watch how quickly they switch their order or try to get you to go off your plan “just this one night” as if cheating was a bonding ritual.
It's difficult to be the person who orders salads, but even more difficult to get on the scale Monday morning and watch the pounds go up. Both scenarios are hard. Choose your hard. Keep in mind that it's not their business what you order or don't order, and your choices shouldn't affect your friends. Real friends encourage their friends to follow their heart and eat salads with you.
You Expect the Worst to Protect Yourself
Expecting the worst is another form of self-sabotage and self-preservation.
If you don't demand or expect more out of relationships then you aren't risking anything. You may be thinking you're protecting yourself but you may actually be scaring Mr. Right away, or chasing away the job you really want.
When it comes to reaching your fitness and weight loss goals it's just as bad. You think it will stop you from being let down, but what it does is prevent you from even making any effort at all. Not trying will certainly leave you being stuck. You may have built up a layer of protection to ensure that you will never be hurt or let down again, and no one can blame you. What you'll find is that most people won't fight their way through your protective layers, and it gets lonely after a while. You basically pull the pins out of the bombs so that they won't go off in your face. However, you might be stopping yourself from reaching your goals. Live by what Brene Brown says, "Show up and allow yourself to be vulnerable. It takes courage but you can do it."
You Stop When You Start to See Results
A lot of people I meet say. “ I lost xxxx” or "I used to….." To be honest, “I used to” is another one of my pet peeves. It doesn't matter what you used to do, it matters what you're still doing.
It's consistency and frequency that gets lasting results and if you're living the lifestyle you don't “go off” it because it's a holiday or you don't feel like doing it. Would you ever think of not brushing your teeth for a few days? That's the way we need to treat eating healthy and exercising in order for change to last. I've witnessed too many people that set goals and worked hard to reach them only to demand less of themselves. They get sloppy.
The truth is, diets and exercise plans don't stop working, we stop doing what it takes and demanding less and less from ourselves. Staying 100 percent committed is the secret sauce. It's critical that you continue to set goals in every area of your life and continue to strive to reach them.
From my 25 plus years as a weight loss, fitness expert, and success coach, I've seen that either you continue to keep growing or you die. The solution to all of these issues is skillpower, not willpower. Stay on task and don't ever allow your excuses to win you out. The one thing I love most about fitness and exercise is that you get out of it exactly what you put into it—Guaranteed. You will never be sorry you worked out or ate clean, but you'll always feel bad if you don’t. In my entire career I've never seen anyone say, “Wow I'm sorry I worked out and ate clean." Every second of every day there is someone who is sorry they didn’t.
Your new way of thinking is: Anything is possible and obstacles are nothing more than opportunities.